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Spirit Fruits – Forbearance

Pastor Mike Cherney

Hi guys, hope you’re having a great day. Take a moment with us to hit pause and meditate on the fruits of the Spirit. We find the fruits of the Spirit in Galatians:


But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23a)


We’ve talked about the first three, and I encourage you to head back and watch those devotions if you haven’t. Today, let’s talk about forbearance.


Now I have to admit, guys, forbearance is a tricky one. I had to go to the dictionary this week to get you a good definition for this word we don’t use very often. Google says forbearance is: Refraining from the enforcement of something (such as a debt, right, or obligation) that is due. Does that help?


Maybe not. How about this: Forbearance is the state of being able to bear up under provocation. Better?


Let’s use an example. Someone is trying to get your goad. Let’s say it’s a bully on the playground, saying horrendous things to you about your height and weight, your family, the clothes you have on, you name it. His goal is simply to get you to snap, to lose your cool. You keep it together. You are demonstrating forbearance. Now, you could smack the guy. Let him have what-for. Let him know he can’t talk to you that way. And maybe no one would fault you for it. But instead you choose to keep your cool, not to lash out, even if others would say he had it coming to him.


That’s a hypothetical example. I made up a fake situation. You know how I know it’s fake? Because under provocation, I do not hold up very well at all. In fact, I am ashamed to admit how easy it is to get me to crack, to lose patience, to let my anger flare up and take control. How about you? Where are you at with forbearance?


As shamefully as we have acted, as short as our tempers have been, and as quick as we are to flare up and show our worst sides in the sight of provocation, God practices forbearance with us. What we deserve for our sins of short-tempered anger and hostility toward our neighbor is punishment. We deserve God’s wrath to come down and give us what-for. But God doesn’t do that. He punished Jesus on the cross in your place. That’s the forbearance of God.


In love, he withholds what your sins deserve from you. In patience, he leads you to see his forgiveness and mercy in Christ. Though God has the right to punish us, he doesn’t. He punished Jesus in our place, and raised him from the dead for our salvation. That’s what Peter says:


Bear in mind that our Lord’s patience means salvation, just as our dear brother Paul also wrote you with the wisdom that God gave him. (2 Peter 3:15)


When Peter says “patience” there, it’s the same word Galatians uses for “forbearance.” God, withholding punishment from you. God, being patient with you. God, not bringing you what your sins deserve, but instead showering you with love and compassion. Now you have the joy of practicing forbearance with others. Sure, people wrong you. But remember God’s patience with you, and have patience with those around you. We are tempted to have short tempers with those around us. Instead of snapping, breath. Take a moment to ponder the great patience God has with you, even in your weak moments. In the face of provocation, look at Jesus, who is our Savior and redeemer, and also teaches us how to practice patience and forbearance with others.


We’d love to sit with you and talk more about the life-changing forbearance of God, so please get in touch with us! Till then, God bless.


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